The end of the year is often a challenging time for us. There is much to do, there are family expectations, and there can be emotional "pop ups" as we navigate the holidays. One way to stay even and grounded is to adopt a practice of appreciation.
One way to do this is to use our Appreciate kit and write things you appreciate on your appreciation frame daily. These can be little or big things, people, places, and so on. This is a very simple practice that gives great reward when done regularly. You can do this in a journal as well, but it helps to keep your list where you can see it.
It is also helpful to consider including "negative" things that occur and to actively acknowledge the gifts in them. This is a very real way of turning lead into gold, and keeping your life more positive.
Another lovely thing to do is to tell one person each day what you appreciate about them. People do not hear this kind of feedback often enough, and the difference it can make to you both is great.
Of course, we would like you to keep crafting or doing anything else that keeps you centered, calm and engaged in your life.
Also, we've included our instructions for writing and using Affirmations here. Affirmations are another helpful personal practice. If you do not use it this season, consider it a gift for the future year.
HOW TO WRITE AND USE AFFIRMATIONS
Make a commitment to practice positive thoughts and input for your mind on a daily basis. Affirmations are a wonderful tool for doing this, and they work best if you say them aloud or write them out. When you say or write your affirmations, you are giving instructions to your subconscious mind. We know that the subconscious mind gives all messages equal weight, so giving it more positive input in the form of affirmations works to counteract the negative input some of us are so good at giving ourselves.
Say or write your affirmations out daily, or even more often. You can write them on your frame, and then read them aloud to yourself every time you see it. When you do this, take a moment to actually visualize what you are saying or writing. Affirmations work best when you create the reality for yourself each time you use them.
How to Create an Affirmation
1. State affirmations in the present tense.
Affirmations must be stated in the present tense because your subconscious is quite literal. If you say something like “I’m going to be rich.” Or “I am becoming thin and fit.” the message sent to your mind – the reality created, is one where you will get there someday, but not now. You want the mind to believe it is happening now. Say things like “I have more than enough money every day.” Or “I am healthy, fit, and slim.”
2. State affirmations in the positive.
The subconscious mind does not comprehend concepts like “not”, “don’t”, and other negative qualifiers. If someone says to you “Don’t think about a pink elephant”, what happens? You think of a pink elephant. Your mind completely ignores the word “don’t”. Always create a picture of what you want – NOT what you want to avoid. So say something like “I am confident and competent when I speak in public”, instead of “I won’t stutter and feel nervous when I talk in front of this next group.”
3. Be specific.
There are countless stories of people who are successful at picturing and achieving what they want, only to find they had neglected to include a critical detail. Since your subconscious mind is an excellent engine for creating reality, be sure you are clear and exact about the reality you say you want. Karen has a friend who used this technique to find a romantic relationship. When she met “the perfect man” he fit all the criteria she had so carefully pictured. She realized, however, that she had not specified that this beautiful soul have a job. Don’t say, “I have a new car”, when you mean to say, “I have a new car that gets 25 or more MPG and seats 6.”
Affirmation Writing Exercise:
Pick something you would like to focus on in the next week and write at least one affirmation for it. Remember the guidelines. Present Tense, Positive, and Specific.
We appreciate you!
Ann and Karen
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